Phillipa is a genuinely giving, accepting and warm person, who calms her inner fear of being unloved by helping or loving others. She becomes personally involved with the person she is helping, looking for and finding an emotional connection, but tends to ignore or marginalising her own needs, seeing wanting or needing as selfish. Self-love is conditional; Phillipa loves herself only when giving.
She is very people-oriented, and focuses on a specific kind of person. The older man with who she gained her initial sexual experience was a soldier who specialised in security issues, so she gravitates towards those in a similar area of activity. There’s always a personal connection to what she is doing. She can also see the good in almost anyone (even when no one else can). The fact that she loves to be loved has made her totally bisexual but let there be no mistake if she ever did consider only herself, she really prefers men.